A man's guide to dealing with Valentine's Day stress

7th February 2020

It may be all about love and romance but often for men, Valentine’s Day ends up being more about stress and anxiety. There seems like a lot to remember and there seems like so much room for error, but Valentine's Day doesn’t have to be as stressful as you think.

Unrealistic expectations

A lot of men worry that what they do or buy for their partner won’t be enough. But this is largely due to unrealistic images on social media that lead men to thinking they need to do something extravagant in order to make their partner happy.

Most people want the day to be about romance and showing that you care. So a simple gesture or a small gift to show that you really know them is bound to go down better than something over the top.

Just relax, take the pressure off yourself and plan in advance so that you don’t have to deal with any last-minute panic-planning.

Performance anxiety

Although women might assume that any potential sex is a man’s favourite part of Valentine’s Day, it can actually cause most men a lot of performance anxiety, particularly if the relationship is new.

Many men cannot get or maintain an erection, which can cause (and be caused by) stress (a vicious cycle). Thankfully erectile dysfunction medication such as Viagra (Sildenafil) and Cialis (Tadalafil) can help you to avoid any worry on the night. You can buy ED pills from UK Meds without a prescription, by using our online consultation system.

If you don’t have any worries about your ability to sustain an erection but you are worried about finishing too quickly then you’re more likely to be suffering from premature ejaculation. Slow down and take your time; often the worry of not lasting long enough can make the situation worse.

Focus on your partner and try various ways to reduce sensation on the penis to slow yourself down. This can be done with condoms or with anaesthetic cream like Emla cream. If you’re still struggling with premature ejaculation then Priligy can help to give you better control.

Financial strain

Whether or not you do presents for Valentine’s Day is something that’s individual to each couple and it’s not something you have to participate in at all. However, a lot of couples choose to and again, it’s expected that the man will buy his partner something nice.

Pair the gift-giving with an expensive restaurant and flowers that are twice the price they normally are and the whole thing can cause financial strain. 

Instead of adding to any money worries you might already have, there are plenty of ways that you can save some money and avoid splashing the cash. Instead of a lavish 3 course meal out, why not try cooking a meal at home instead? You can still make it special with candles, music and a posh pudding.

And instead of a dozen cut red roses, you could buy a potted plant like an Orchid instead. That way your partner can enjoy the gift for longer!

Relax and have fun

Although you might be worried, the important thing to remember is that Valentine’s Day is supposed to be fun and is all about spending time with the one you love. So just relax and try to enjoy it.